So as you sit around the holiday table this week, looking at those spooky weirdos you call family, wondering if being associated with them makes you look bad, marveling how your knuckles don’t seem to be dragging on the floor like the rest of them, think of poor self-described DJ, Matthew Roberts who found out it was Charles Manson who raped his mother 40 years ago.
Matthew, 41 - who bears a haunting resemblance to his father - sank into depression after discovering his identity.
He has since been in contact with his dad in a series of letters to his California prison and Manson has replied - each time chillingly signing off with a swastika.
Now Matthew, who was given up for adoption as a baby, has told of his horror at finding out he was the son of a monster.
You can find DJ Matthew Roberts photo here